Trying to think of a suitable title for this post was mind-boggling. I’m still not sure if the metaphor is exact what I want it to be. Do you want to take a shot at it? (Tell me in the comment section.)
Life is just a bowl of cherries, pits and all. – author unknown
Life is said to be hard or tough. They (I’m not sure who this means.) say you must put in a genuine effect in order to get anything out of life. I would think that someone would have figured out that this a relative. What is difficult for one person, is a breeze for another.
I have known people who haven’t had any tribulating times in their lives, who have never had to go with out and have been spoiled rotten. These people aren’t ‘bad’. In fact, I’ve rather enjoyed their company. Despite all the indulgence they had, their attitudes haven’t been affected somehow. Yet, life has thrown they a curve ball that has hit them right in the face.
Then there’s the other side the the spectrum, those people who have had to fight and claw for everything they get, which still isn’t much. I know people that have or are facing this too. Yet, again, all that has happened to them has not done harm to how they see life in general.
The Perplexing Question
Why is it that other people who I have or do know can’t accept the pits with their cherries? I’ve gone through several scenarios in my mind, hoping that I fall on some explanations that make so sense.
People of Weakness
Not all people have the same strengths and weaknesses. Neither do they have the same degrees of their strengths and weaknesses. Simply put, we are different in all sorts of ways. Could it be that some people are naturally weak in this area? Could it be that they are incapable of seeing life as a series of ups and downs; that they can only comprehend everything should going as they believe it should? Could it be that they don’t acknowledge the existence of the pits?
I guess this could be, although it makes me wonder what really happened to them as children. To never understand any part of the world the way it is spells mental illness to me. Still, I could be mistaken about this conclusion.
I imagine everyone knows a person like this some place in their life. They’re different that the weak ones because these people know full well that not everything can be just as they want it. Yet, they will never surrender to any conquering force, no matter how foolish they’re being or how strong the force may be.
For these people, defeat is worse than death. They will keep plugging away at whatever they want to succeed at, even when they can only fail. They know that the pits are there. However, they have this weird idea that they can somehow make the pits vanish.
People Who Live in Romance Novels
For some good light reading, I don’t think anything beats a well written romance novel. There’s a hero or heroine, trials and tribulations with love mixed in, and at the end, everyone is happy. However, there are people who actually try to live as if they are in one of these books. They perpetually think that everything is going to turn out alright.
These people accept the bad with the good; that is, while the story of a particular part of their life is in motion. However, when the chapter comes to an end, they fully expect everything to be hunky-dory fine. They fall apart if the last page of that particular chapter turns out badly. Somehow they think that the pits can be taken out magically and be done away with.
Stuff at the End
All these scenarios make some sense to me. I must admit, however, I’m still having a problem with why people stay in these types of roles. I am astounded by how they continually shelter themselves from the truths of life. Their perception of what goes on around them is so incredibly narrow.
Is it true that these people don’t want the challenge, the excitement, the knowledge, or the thrill of what life, as it really is, has to offer? Moreover, do they think that they are successfully avoiding what life really is?
Perhaps it’s my perception of life that is narrowed in some way when comparing to others. What do you think?